Problems on dates?

In different situations your energy behaves differently.

It may change qualities, you may have different blocks, it may be stronger or weaker.

Your energy will be completely different when you are at home alone relaxed watching a movie, or when you are in a bar with your friends. Or on a date. Or in an important work meeting.

Maybe on a date you’ll immediately start to repress sexual energy (exactly the opposite of what you want). Certain blocks pop up only on that specific situation.

And you may wonder why on the exercises at home you are apparently clear of blocks, but then on a different situation, some other blocks pop up.

It doesn’t take a big stretch of logic to understand that at home you are relaxed and comfortable, and – let’s say on a date – other forces are at play.

You are no longer that much relaxed. You are evaluating the person in front of you and you are being evaluated. Different psychological and emotional mechanisms are at work.

So it’s perfectly normal that your energy reflects this.

Don’t get me wrong: energy exercises home alone are very important. This is the only time you have to be completely in tune and aware of yourself in minute detail.

It’s also the only time you have to develop a strong internal awareness.

You can’t accomplish this when you are out into the world.

You can only do it with silence, stillness, and internal focus.

It’s impossible to develop it if you need to be focus on the external inputs from the world.

But then, once you have this internal awareness well developed from the “alone practice”, you’ll see that it’s a lot easier to feel your energy when you’re out into the world.

You are already used to feeling it in detail, now certain sensations will immediately jump at you.

Or, a simple 5 second internal energy scan while you’re out on a date will give you a lot of energetic information about yourself.

And, you can use this information to later understand and clear these blocks.

Clearing energetic blocks on different situations is crucial if you want to achieve any type of magnetism.

In fact, on Become a Sexual Man there’s a specific process for clearing out the sexual energy blocks on most situations of your life. You work through them one by one, feeling and allowing the energy to flow, so that when they happen in real life, your energy can flow perfectly!

Is sexual desire good to have?

Here’s an interesting question from a student:

“Is sexual desire good to have?”

It depends… I’ll elaborate.

First, sexual feelings in themselves are fully natural and we all have them one way or another or in different levels.

They are always there regardless of how much we try to mask or hide them.

The problem is that these feelings don’t exist in isolation of everything else.

They get “contaminated” by your memories, imaginations, instincts, traumas, blocks and so on. Particularly the ones from early life.

Hence, due to this “contamination”, what you consider sexual desire is different from what I consider sexual desire, or your next door neighbor.

We all feel it differently, even if the source is the same.

The original feeling can be similar, but then our mind interprets it differently and we ended up all feeling differently.

If someone had a traumatic experience with a sexual feelings early in life, that’s going to influence what they feel the rest of their life (unless they unblock it).

So your sexual desire is going to be dependent on how you grew to interpret it over all these years.

Of course, all this was done in a completely unconscious way.

Naturally, you were never consciously deciding that your desire was to be of this or that nature, or would be associated to X or Y memories.

That’s why my answer is “it depends”.

As an example, if your sexual desire is of a “vampiric nature”, it’s something that makes you feel needy, in a way that you just want to take something from others, then your sexual desire is not going to help you on your quest to be sexually magnetic.

But, if your sexual desire is of an “abundant nature”, something that you want to share with others and give it away, then it will be a lot more helpful.

With a training like Sexual Energy Mastery you can strip away all the baggage away from the feeling of sexual energy. You go to the source of the feeling in itself, without being “contaminated” by your previous baggage and you reset it to a desire that is actually useful for sexual magnetism.

That’s why it’s so effective!


How important is social status for sexual attraction?

Here’s an interesting question from a student:

“Is your social status important for sexual attraction?”

Social status is the same as most of the other external means of attraction just like good looks, being rich, have a great body and so on.

It’s all good and it helps if you have them, but it’s not the main attraction factor.

Nor would you be excluded if you don’t have the right “social status” or a large bank account.

It can help you get that first look or get your foot in the door. But if true sexual magnetism is not there… she will simply lose interest after a while.

The affairs of the wives of rich business men – with zero sexual magnetism – with the pool boys – with high sexual magnetism – are so common whole TV series and movies were made with this plot line.

The main attraction factor is always how sexual you are and how well you can project your sexuality.

You can be cutting lawns or cleaning up pools and that is not a problem.

But don’t get me wrong… sexual magnetism is not about how much you talk about sex or how sexually direct you can be.

Far from it! You can do both of these things and don’t have one ounce of sexual magnetism.

Sexual magnetism is being able to project sexual energy. And this is not related to the CONTENT of your interaction.

So you don’t need to be talking about sex all the time.

In fact you could be talking about all the boring aspects of the life of King George III during the whole interaction and still project a good deal of sexual energy and get a high sexual attraction level.

It’s about HOW you are talking and interacting. It’s about the subtext of the interaction. Not the content.

So please don’t tell anyone that Bruno from Charisma School told you to talk and think about sex all the time. This is a complete misinterpretation from what sexual magnetism actually is.

It’s the quality of your energy, of your movement and voice. What’s interesting is that sexual magnetic men and women are like that with everyone. Not just with someone they are sexually interested (although they obviously increase the intensity in that context).

You can really understand that with Sexual Energy Mastery and Become a Sexual Man. First, in Sexual Energy Mastery, you feel sexual energy inside of you, unblocking the most pressing blocks that are preventing sexual energy to flow freely inside, and then you develop your ability to fully project it in Become a Sexual Man.


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