The art of attention
Here’s an interesting quote from William Walker Atkinson:
“Attention is not a faculty of the mind, but is instead the focusing of the consciousness upon one object to the temporary exclusion of all other objects. It is a turning of the mind on an object. The object of attention may be either external, such as a person or thing; or internal, such as a feeling, thought, memory, or idea.
Attention may be either voluntary, that is, directed consciously by the will; or involuntary, that is, directed unconsciously and instinctively and apparently independently of the will. Voluntary attention is an acquired and developed power and is the attribute of the thinker, student and intellectual individual in all walks of life. Involuntary attention, on the contrary, is but little more than a reflex action, or a nervous response to some stimulus.
As Halleck says: “Many persons scarcely get beyond the reflex stage. Any chance stimulus will take their attention away from their studies or their business.”
Sir William Hamilton made a still finer distinction, which is, however, generally overlooked by writers on the subject, but which is scientifically correct and which we shall follow in this book. He holds that there are three degrees or kinds of attention:
(1) the reflex or involuntary, which is instinctive in nature;
(2) that determined by desire or feeling, which partakes of both the involuntary and voluntary nature, and which although partly instinctive may be resisted by the will under the influence of the judgment; and
(3) that determined by deliberate volition in response to reason, as in study, scientific games, rational deliberation, etc.”
The study and practice of attention and concentration is one of the most useful you can do in terms of magnetism and your whole life. It’s the one mental activity that influences everything you do in life, so it’s only natural that Atkinson kept referring to it in every book he has written.
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Expanding sexual energy
I often write about an essential aspect of sexual energy: the expansion, the sharing of the sexual energy and giving it away if you’d like.
But the adage “fake till you make it” doesn’t apply here.
You can’t fake expand sexual energy. Either you are doing it and enjoying it, or you aren’t.
And it’s straightforward for you to fool yourself by doing it by some pseudo energy movement.
You can say: “I’m expanding sexual energy”, yet, no energy is getting out because you are contracting it or anxious or rigid.
It’s not like you need to “push it out”. No, this is far from a rigid, strong movement.
Expanding sexual energy is very gentle and soft. It’s much more related to feeling so good with that energy that it’s simply radiating out of you.
It’s not a push. It’s enjoyable.
So the exercises we do in Sexual Energy Mastery are not exercises to do in a rigorous, rigid fashion. Quite the opposite, they are supposed to be enjoyable, for you to relax and enjoy rather than “I have to do this”.
The more rigid you become, the less sexual energy will naturally expand out of you. So enjoy and relax, rather than doing it as homework.
Getting your ex back with sexual energy
One common question I have is: “How can I use sexual energy to get my ex back?”
And this question has a huge problem. It comes from a needy mindset.
For some reason – it doesn’t matter what – the relationship ended. And now you want it back.
But, even if you try to hide it, you are coming from a neediness mindset, hence contracting energy. And remember that people can feel this quite well. Women smell it a mile away.
Hence, sexual energy won’t work very well since it’s an energy of expansion. It’s an energy you want to GIVE and SHARE, not take.
If you need something from someone – like sex, emotional support, etc. – you are not sharing the good sexual feelings you have inside—quite the opposite. You want to take them away. And naturally, that won’t work very well.
Once you get rid of the neediness, you most likely won’t want to get your ex back. You’ll learn with that relationship and move on.
I don’t know if you’ll be able to get your ex back even if you develop perfect sexual energy. Maybe it’s time to move on; maybe you are too different; maybe your energies are not matching. There can be many reasons, and I have no idea of your specific situation.
What sexual energy gives you is a choice. As you share sexuality with all those around you, people inevitably want to have sex with you. They feel so good – and sexual – around you that it’s only the natural consequence.
Maybe that can work with your ex, or maybe she is already so negatively anchored to certain parts of you that she won’t even be able to feel your newly found sexual energy.
Either way, you will surely be better off by developing sexual energy and getting rid of the neediness for any specific person.
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