The lost natural magnetism
Most of us go through life without realizing how much of our natural magnetism we’ve lost — or even that we had it in the first place.
But if there’s one thing I’ve noticed from working with dozens, maybe hundreds of people, it’s this: we’re often much more magnetic as children. Sometimes you have to go way back to even remember it, but most of us are born with a certain spark. Over time, though, we start to lose it.
We might not notice when or how it fades, but we feel the effects.
The world starts to feel colder. People seem more distant. Something’s off — even if you can’t quite explain what.
Maybe others don’t respond to you the way they used to. Their smiles seem forced. Their attention drifts. They might still be polite, but there’s a wall there. Or maybe they’re just rude. And no matter what you do, the same frustrating patterns repeat — rejection, disconnection, feeling invisible.
At some point, you start asking yourself: is it just bad luck? A rough patch? Or is it something about me?
You might wonder if you’ve always been like this. Or if something caused it along the way. But either way, that doesn’t change how it feels now.
Here’s the thing — magnetism isn’t about being good-looking or charming. It’s not loud. It’s not performative. It’s something quieter. People can feel it, even if they don’t know why.
And when it’s there, they move toward you.
When it’s gone, they move on.
So the real question isn’t just why it faded — but why we stopped paying attention to it. Why we let it slip away. And now it feels hard to get back.
Tomorrow, we’ll dig into one possible reason why and how to fix it.
Harmony with the Universal Mind
Here’s an interesting quote by Charles Haanel:
“Someone may ask: “How can the subconscious change conditions?”
The reply is, because the subconscious is a part of the Universal Mind and a part must be the same in kind and quality as the whole; the only difference is one of degree. The whole, as we know, is creative; in fact, it is the only creator there is; consequently we find that mind is creative, and as thought is the only activity which the mind possesses thought must necessarily be creative also.
But we shall find that there is a vast difference between simply thinking and directing our thought consciously, systematically and constructively; when we do this we place our mind in harmony with the Universal Mind, we come in tune with the Infinite, we set in operation the mightiest force in existence, the creative power of the Universal Mind.
This, as everything else, is governed by natural law, and this law is the “Law of Attraction,” which is that Mind is creative, and will automatically correlate with its object and bring it into manifestation.”
You are rebuilding
In the last email, we talked about how every exercise in Charisma School is ultimately a tool for inner awareness, an invitation to personal growth, not just a physical or mental drill. Today, I want to go a bit deeper into why this process can sometimes feel… messy.
Let’s be real: it can get confusing and overwhelming. Even in a simple exercise, you’re asked to focus on several things at once — your posture, breath, muscle tension, mental state, energy, specific parts of your body, among others — all at the same time.
It’s like trying to juggle five balls while standing perfectly still. Not easy.
Now, I do my best to introduce each exercise step by step, to make the progression feel natural.
But sooner or later, you might hit a wall. You may feel like it’s just too much to keep track of. And when that happens, I want you to know that it’s completely normal.
Feeling overwhelmed isn’t a sign of failure. It’s a sign that you’re doing deep work. You’re moving out of autopilot and into conscious control.
What we’re really doing here is deconstructing your automatic habits, the unconscious patterns that have been running your body and mind for years, sometimes decades.
We’re pulling back the curtain and asking: Why do I stand this way? Why does my energy collapse when someone looks at me? Why do I tense my jaw when I speak?
These patterns run deep, and shining a light on them isn’t always comfortable. But that discomfort is part of the work.
To make it more concrete, think about brushing your teeth. You’ve done it a thousand times without thinking. But if you decided to optimize your technique — really optimize it — you’d have to consider everything: your toothbrush, how you move it, the angle, the pressure, how long you brush, which areas you neglect. Suddenly, something automatic becomes something conscious.
That’s exactly what we’re doing. We’re taking what’s familiar and unconscious, breaking it apart, and rebuilding it with awareness and intention.
Yes, it takes effort. And yes, it can be tiring. But real transformation doesn’t come from stacking new habits on top of old ones. It comes from clearing out what no longer serves you and putting yourself back together — stronger, clearer, more aligned with who you actually are.
So if you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a deep breath. That feeling isn’t a setback—it’s a sign you’re in the process. You’re not broken. You’re rebuilding.
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