Aggressiveness and integration

Regarding the last email about accepting yourself, a student asked me:

“what if what I am is something society doesn’t accept? For example, aggressive.”

That’s a valid point.

Naturally, we can’t express everything without considering others and societal rules. Aggressiveness is a prime example.

You can’t just go around punching everyone you want. Most likely, you’ll end up in jail or as an outcast in society.

But what if these aggressive impulses are within you and you can’t repress them? Then what?

Firstly, you need to become aware of them. Understand their origins and how they manifest within you.

In other words, grasp how this energy moves and what it does. Remember, aggressiveness, like any other trait, has associated energy movements, aspects, and qualities; you can learn about them.

Once you intimately know your aggression and understand its manifestation and origins, you can integrate it within yourself. The method of integration depends heavily on you.

Aggressiveness is linked to the masculine warrior archetype. You might think society has little use for warriors nowadays, but there are still outlets for this aggressive energy, especially if it aligns with your true personality.

Maybe you find a new sport, like boxing. Perhaps you explore a new profession, such as becoming a police officer, joining the military, or working as a bodyguard. You could even integrate it into an art form, and so on.

Regardless, it all revolves around being aware of it. Don’t reject or avoid it, and don’t blindly act on its impulses. Instead, become aware and integrate it, making it a part of yourself.

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Accepting what you are

The first step in all magnetic and inner power work is to accept what you are.

If you resist a part of you because you think it’s bad and shouldn’t be that way, you create more resistance, contraction, and blocks within yourself. This makes it even tougher to be magnetic and have inner power.

For example, let’s say you’re introverted and need some alone time. But if you believe being extroverted is better and it’s a problem for your magnetism, you may think you can’t be magnetic if you’re introverted.

So, you inevitably reject this part of yourself.

The result? You won’t respect your need for solitude, try to force yourself into something you’re not, and face consequences sooner or later.

The part you reject will come up unexpectedly.

This is exactly what happened to me when I believed my lack of magnetism was due to being an introvert.

I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Magnetism and inner power aren’t tied to personality traits X or Y. They’re linked to truly being yourself – but the fully expansive you, not a contracting one. The real you with no masks, no resistance, and no blocks.

Through inner power work, you’ll integrate your true self, allowing it to shine forth to the outside.

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Constructive form of thought

Here’s an interesting quote by Charles Haanel:

“Imagination is the constructive form of thought which must precede every constructive form of action.

A builder cannot build a structure of any kind until he has first received the plans from the architect, and the architect must get them from his imagination.

The Captain of Industry cannot build a giant corporation which may coordinate hundreds of smaller corporations and thousands of employees, and utilize millions of dollars of capital until he has first created the entire work in his imagination.

Objects in the material world are as clay in the potter’s hand; it is in the Master Mind that the real things are created, and it is by the use of the imagination that the work is done. In order to cultivate the imagination it must be exercised. Exercise is necessary to cultivate mental muscle as well as physical muscle. It must be supplied with nourishment or it cannot grow.

Do not confuse Imagination with Fancy, or that form of daydreaming in which some people like to indulge. Daydreaming is a form of mental dissipation which may lead to mental disaster.

Constructive imagination means mental labor, by some considered to be the hardest kind of labor, but, if so, it yields the greatest returns, for all the great things in life have come to men and women who had the capacity to think, to imagine, and to make their dreams come true.”

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