In our last email, we discussed the importance of contraction and expansion and how contraction is a normal part of our daily experience, occurring thousands of times each day.

However, the ideal situation is to have balance and awareness of these states.

You can observe this dynamic quite clearly in social interactions or public speaking. With a reasonable level of energetic awareness, you can notice whether your energy is contracted or expanded during these interactions.

Contraction usually occurs when we are overly focused on ourselves. Thoughts like “Do I look good? Do they like me? Is she interested in me?” trigger a natural defense mechanism designed to protect us.

This self-focus creates an almost immediate contraction of your entire energy, something you can sense with even a little energetic awareness.

The reason for this is straightforward: your energy is directed inward, into your own thoughts, desires, and insecurities. This inward pull naturally results in a contraction — a kind of self-protective shield. But what are you protecting yourself from? That’s an important question to explore further.

On the other hand, when you shift your energy outward — focusing on others, their energy, and the environment — it leads to expansion, abundance, and magnetism. Paradoxically, the less you focus on yourself, the more others are drawn to you. Once you understand how energy works, this becomes self-evident.

In public speaking, this principle is especially clear. You can easily tell when a speaker is entirely self-focused. Their energy feels closed off, and their projection often lacks strength or connection.

The most important step, however, is developing the ability to recognize this within yourself. When you can sense whether your energy is contracting or expanding, understand how it is contracted, and identify where the tension lies, you’ve made significant progress toward cultivating magnetism and charisma.

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