Here’s an interesting question from a student:

“I was wondering what specific traits might help develop resilience, ability to defend and even attack if necessary on an energetic level.

I want to know how to carry my own and be the sort of man who can defend others as well. My goal is to be a positive force in this world, and I do not want to be vulnerable to violence nor have the inability to defend others. I think it’s part of being a real man.”

This is completely true.

As much as we would like to avoid it, unfortunately confrontations are part of life. One way or another you’ll be exposed to such confrontations in different situations of your life.

Maybe it’s with a coworker that doesn’t like you. Or in a social setting. Or even with family members.

One way or another you’ll need to handle them. And the way you do it, can say a lot about you.

There’s different ways to handle confrontations based on the person and situation you have in front of you.

Sometimes simply showing some empathy can go a long way and solve a tricky situation. I’ve gotten out of more than one confrontation by attempting to understand where the other person is coming from and empathise with him/her. This will avoid an escalating scenario and solve the situation in a very elegant fashion.

But sometimes you may need to have a firm Will to stand your ground and not be shaken by the other person’s Will.

And sometimes retreat is the best option, since you reach a state where victory can not be achieved – or at least not in the way that won’t compromise deeper aspects of you. You won’t need to stand your ground all the time.

To do all the above certain skills are necessary.

First inner power is always the foundational skill. If you let your emotions run the show, then who knows where a confrontation will end up. You’ll need a solid grasp over your mind, body, emotions and energy.

Then, a mastery over your Will to make sure that you can stand your ground if needed. An iron Will is required here.

And, the ability to feel both your energy and the other person’s energy can take you a long way, particularly by deciding the best course of action.

For some people you may feel that they are attacking you due to an extreme fear inside, so maybe an empathic solution can be reached very easily. While for others, you may feel an extreme aggressiveness, and hence, you’ll know that empathy can’t be a solution here.

Of course, if a confrontation reaches the physical level, then only a physical skill can help you. A martial art, a fighting sport and similar types of sports. I would recommend it even if you don’t plan to take any confrontation to the physical level. By knowing that you’re ready, it’s a way to increase your inner power and ability to be calm during a confrontation.

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