Our energy works in a fascinating way.
We might think we’re far more evolved than animals, but the truth is, we’re not that different. Like animals, we’re deeply conditioned — we just call it our “identity” or “personality.”
Take someone who constantly seeks validation from others, for example. At some point in their early life, they likely experienced positive feelings when they pleased people — maybe a parent smiled when they were obedient, or a teacher praised them for being helpful.
This created a pleasant energy flow inside them.
Over time, this behavior became ingrained, shaping how they see themselves. Now, as an adult, they don’t recognize it as conditioning. Instead, they say, “I’m just an easygoing person, that’s who I am.”
Similarly, someone with what we now call “social anxiety” might have been punished or humiliated as a child. Perhaps they spoke up in class and were laughed at. This created energetic blocks inside them, and defense mechanisms formed to help them avoid similar situations in the future.
What started as a conditioned response to fear eventually became a fixed, crystallized part of their “personality”, something they believe is innate rather than learned.
This gets reinforced by our own minds. We feed it energy by thinking about it and creating stories around it.
Once we believe something about ourselves and feel these blocks and impulses in our bodies, our minds start reinforcing it. For example, if that same person avoids social situations, their brain justifies it:
“See? You don’t belong in conversations. You’re awkward.”
The more we think this, the more we feel the same impulses and blocks. And the more we feel it, the more we think it.
A self-reinforcing cycle begins!
But the rule behind this is simple: Whatever you feed, grows. In other words, what you give energy to will expand.
If you keep watering the belief that you’re unworthy or unlovable, it will flourish like a weed, wrapping itself around your life.
If you keep resisting the physical impulses of these blocks, or giving in to them, those thoughts and internal blocks will compound, looping endlessly.
It doesn’t even matter whether you believe these patterns come from past conditioning, genetics, the planets and stars or something else. What’s important is understanding how this loop works.
Now, the question is: How do we break free? How can we change, especially the negative loops that hold us back?
In the next email, we’ll explore how to do just that.
