Most of us go through life without realizing how much of our natural magnetism we’ve lost — or even that we had it in the first place.

But if there’s one thing I’ve noticed from working with dozens, maybe hundreds of people, it’s this: we’re often much more magnetic as children. Sometimes you have to go way back to even remember it, but most of us are born with a certain spark. Over time, though, we start to lose it.

We might not notice when or how it fades, but we feel the effects.

The world starts to feel colder. People seem more distant. Something’s off — even if you can’t quite explain what.

Maybe others don’t respond to you the way they used to. Their smiles seem forced. Their attention drifts. They might still be polite, but there’s a wall there. Or maybe they’re just rude. And no matter what you do, the same frustrating patterns repeat — rejection, disconnection, feeling invisible.

At some point, you start asking yourself: is it just bad luck? A rough patch? Or is it something about me?

You might wonder if you’ve always been like this. Or if something caused it along the way. But either way, that doesn’t change how it feels now.

Here’s the thing — magnetism isn’t about being good-looking or charming. It’s not loud. It’s not performative. It’s something quieter. People can feel it, even if they don’t know why.

And when it’s there, they move toward you.

When it’s gone, they move on.

So the real question isn’t just why it faded — but why we stopped paying attention to it. Why we let it slip away. And now it feels hard to get back.

Tomorrow, we’ll dig into one possible reason why and how to fix it.