We all have different personas within us.

The “work you” is different from the “family you.” The same goes for the “friends you” and the “relationship you.”

There’s nothing wrong with that. We all need these personas to function in society. Naturally, the way you communicate with your boss isn’t the same as how you interact with your friends. It’s normal and healthy to recognize this.

The problem arises when there’s a significant discrepancy between these personas. The greater the gap, the more conflicts you experience — both internally and externally.

Others will notice if you’re vastly different at home compared to how you are at work, which can lead to interpersonal conflicts.

But the most challenging conflict is the one within yourself — the one created by personas you aren’t even aware of. When there’s a disconnect between who you think you are and who you truly are, internal struggles emerge.

It’s like trying to become someone you’re not. If you’ve built a persona so strong that it distances you from your true self, maintaining it becomes exhausting.

Pretending to be something you’re not takes an immense amount of energy — too much to sustain in the long run.

This is where inner power and willpower training, like what we practice in Will Mastery, comes in. The goal is to reduce this discrepancy as much as possible — to know your true self so that your personas differ only in form, not in essence.

In other words, the “work you” will still be distinct from the “home you,” but only in how you interact with others — not in who you fundamentally are. Instead of managing multiple separate identities, you become one tree with many branches, rather than several disconnected trees requiring constant upkeep.