Once you arrive at a certain point in adulthood, you may seem “boxed in.”
What I mean by this is that you become limited in your life, with few choices left as it seems you have everything predecided. It’s like you are stuck in a psychological armor – created by you.
This happened with very tiny decisions you’ve made year by year: what you wanted or didn’t want, what you liked and didn’t like, what you needed or didn’t need, or what you could or couldn’t do. Not to mention all the usual life events that apparently “forced” you to become your current self.
You don’t speak with people on the street because that’s not polite.
You don’t go to the beach because you don’t like the sand.
You never pay on dates because you believe in equality.
You don’t go to concerts because you get anxious about everyone.
And so on…
Hence, little by little, year by year, you became boxed inside your own psychological armor, filled with reactions, emotions, and beliefs.
Of course, I’m sure you had a lot of “legitimate reasons” to become like that. Chance life events forced your hand – so to speak.
But whatever those reasons are, and how legitimate they might be, they made you boxed in.
And that is not a good thing.
In your teenage years, it seemed like the world was your oyster. A lot of possibilities for what you can do and what you can become. Yet, further down the line, these possibilities narrow as your armor solidifies.
No one is forcing you to be wherever you are at this moment. Yet, there you are.
No one can tell you what you should “drop” and what you should “keep.” Or what kind of beliefs and defenses are good or bad. Or what to loosen in your psychological armor.
Those decisions must be made by you. But instead of making them unconsciously – as you’ve been doing until now – you can do them with full awareness.