The end game of charisma
We all have an ideal self, someone we’d rather be instead of who we currently are. Maybe it’s becoming more magnetic, confident, or attractive, among other things.
But there are reasons why we want to become like that. perhaps to avoid the pain of being who we are or the anticipation of future pleasures and delights (or both).
The reasons behind it can vary.
However, it’s crucial to be mindful of what we project onto our ideal self because that image often reflects the unconscious desires and instincts of our lower self, rather than our true higher self.
For instance, the desire for fame often mirrors what we see on TV and social media—the glamorous lives of the rich and famous. Likewise, the pursuit of wealth might stem from similar motives, or simply the desire to avoid tasks we despise.
But the true question is: what do you want to become after you get everything that your lower self desires? If you now finally achieve all the money, fame, time, food, sex, territory, etc… what would you truly like to become and do?
Sure, we all desire money, sex, fame… It’s undeniably better to feel depressed in a 5-star hotel while eating caviar than in a 30-floor apartment building while munching on frozen pizza with a neighbor’s kid screaming nearby. No argument there.
However, these are merely the superficial desires of our lower self. While a certain level of comfort is necessary, what happens when we fulfill all those desires? That’s the real question. What do we genuinely want to become then?
Many wealthy individuals find themselves in crisis at this stage. They realize they need to discover their true selves because true happiness and purpose aren’t found by merely gratifying the desires of our lower self. These desires may keep us occupied for a while — perhaps our entire lives — as we chase what we mistakenly believe to be the ultimate goal.
Yet, there’s something higher than that. And you can achieve it right now, at this very moment: your true higher self, the one connected to your purpose and the universal Will.
And fortunately for all of us, this doesn’t depend on how rich and famous you are. But instead, it depends on genuine self-knowledge and awareness, understanding who and what you are.
That’s the end game of charisma. Even though you may get the tools you need to achieve the goals of your lower self, the end goal is much broader than that.
Getting rid of the pain
When you’re in pain, the quickest and easiest route is to eliminate it as soon as possible.
What you’re trying to resist, what you’re attempting not to feel, is weakening you.
You are wasting energy trying NOT to feel. Naturally, no one wants to experience something unpleasant.
If you touch a burning kettle with your hand, the initial reaction is always to remove it. You don’t even need to think or decide; it’s an automatic response.
Similarly, you’ve developed many of these automatic responses to other emotional pains in your life. Perhaps it wasn’t a burning kettle, but rather related to your parents, siblings, or early relationships, and so forth.
Eventually, you found a way to react and distance yourself from the pain. However, while this method protected you, it likely wasn’t the best approach. Especially if you now live as if you’re constantly pulling your hand away from the fire. In other words, you’re living as if you’re under constant attack, thus keeping your defense mechanisms always active.
This is quite exhausting. You’re spending energy defending and resisting what you don’t want to feel, leaving you with less energy for other important aspects of your life—perhaps people or situations you’d prefer to invest your energy in.
Yet, your energy is being drained by old defense mechanisms that no longer serve a purpose.
That’s why you need to dismantle them. You must allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling to regain energy. Yes, you might have to experience the metaphorical burn so you notice that it won’t burn as badly as you remember.
The defense mechanisms need to recognize that they’re no longer necessary. Once this is realized, more energy will become available to you.
That’s what we work on in the course:
>>> The Unblocking Process
The laws under which we live
Here’s an interesting quote by Charles Haanel:
“The laws under which we live are designed solely for our advantage. These laws are immutable and we cannot escape from their operation.
All the great eternal forces act in solemn silence, but it is in our power to place ourselves in harmony with them and thus express a life of comparative peace and happiness.
Difficulties, inharmonies, and obstacles, indicate that we are either refusing to give out what we no longer need, or refusing to accept what we require.
Growth is attained through an exchange of the old for the new, of the good for the better; it is a conditional or reciprocal action, for each of us is a complete thought entity and this completeness makes it possible for us to receive only as we give.
We cannot obtain what we lack if we tenaciously cling to what we have. We are able to consciously control our conditions as we come to sense the purpose of what we attract, and are able to extract from each experience only what we require for our further growth. Our ability to do this determines the degree of harmony or happiness we attain.
The ability to appropriate what we require for our growth, continually increases as we reach higher planes and broader visions, and the greater our abilities to know what we require, the more certain we shall be to discern its presence, to attract it and to absorb it. Nothing may reach us except what is necessary for our growth.
That we reap what we sow is mathematically exact. We gain permanent strength exactly to the extent of the effort required to overcome difficulties.”
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