Most people walk around in a constant state of low-grade arousal and have no idea. But this is not the kind that feels exciting. Instead, it's the dull, restless, unsatisfied kind that makes you scroll for another ten minutes, eat when you are not hungry, and lose the...

Walk two blocks in any city and count how many sexualized images you see on billboards, storefronts, magazine covers, ads, movie posters and so on. The number will surprise you. We live inside a permanent stream of sexual stimulation, and most people have no idea what...

Most people swing between two extremes when it comes to sexual energy: they either suppress it or indulge it (control or release). Both feel familiar but neither is integration. Indulgence is easy to misunderstand since it often hides behind the language of freedom...

We like to pretend sexual energy is optional, like a side quest, something to manage, suppress, indulge, spiritualize, or joke away. Pretty much anything but actually listening to it. That’s a mistake. Sexual energy is not a distraction... it is one of the clearest...

Sexual magnetism does not begin when you sit across from someone at a café. It starts hours earlier, days earlier, and in many cases years earlier, in the small magnetic habits that shape how you carry yourself. Most people treat sexuality like a switch they flip when...

I often read people complaining that their dates feel cold, distant or like they are not giving anything back. As if dating and romantic interactions were some magical machine meant to deliver sexuality on demand. The older generations understood something we keep...

For many students, sexual energy can be hard to identify, especially if they’ve never worked with energy before. One of the most common questions I get is: “How do I know if what I’m feeling is sexual energy?” It’s a fair question. Sexual energy isn’t always obvious....

A student once asked me a great question: "Can you be in a normal monogamous relationship and still increase your sexual magnetism?" The answer is simple: yes. Sexual magnetism doesn’t depend on your relationship status. It doesn’t matter if you’re single, married,...

Charles Haanel said: “The law of attraction is a law of vibrations; to attract love and passion, you must emit the corresponding vibration of love and passion.” What he means is simple but powerful: attraction isn’t about ticking off things you say or do. It’s a...

A lot of people think confidence is what makes someone sexually attractive. And sure, confidence helps and we also talk about it a good deal. It makes you stand taller, speak more clearly, and hesitate less. But confidence alone isn’t what makes you magnetic. It's the...