Aristotle said that "we are what we repeatedly do" and most people read this as an argument for building good habits. But there is another way to read it that is worth thinking about: if you are not paying attention, what you repeatedly do is largely automatic, and...
energy training
A simple exercise before any interaction
In the previous email we looked at what needy energy actually is, why it pushes people away, and what filling that deficit genuinely involves, and this email gives you a concrete way to start seeing it in yourself before it takes over an interaction. One of the most...
What needy energy actually is
In the last email we looked at the energetic dynamics of human interactions and what determines whether you leave people feeling more alive or more depleted, and that raises a question worth going into directly: what is actually happening when someone's energy pushes...
why making it a rule always fails
Most people who struggle with being their true selves just want to be able to say what is true, in a way that is genuine, without either bulldozing others or disappearing entirely. The problem is that they may have learned to operate at one extreme or the other. On...
the right use of your Will
Last week, we looked at what actually creates energetic change, and the answer was not analysis but meeting the block at the level where it actually lives, in the body, in the energy, through direct felt experience rather than reflection. But that raises a natural...
What actually heals a block
The question that follows naturally from understanding why awareness alone isn't enough is: so what actually creates the shift? If, as we wrote on the previous post, intellectual insight has a ceiling, what gets you through it? The answer is that the change has to...
The gap between insight and change
A lot of people come to this work after years of self-help books, journaling, and personal development overall. So, I know that you know you patterns. Maybe you can trace them back to specific experiences, name the beliefs underneath them, explain exactly how and why...
the belief behind the block
Your energy doesn't lie. Your thoughts can rationalize and justify almost anything, but your energy reacts before any of that has a chance to kick in. And those reactions like the sudden tightening in your chest, or the collapse of your magnetism, or the moment you...
The cost of making yourself convenient
There's a version of you that's been making your energy contract for a long time, and it didn't happen overnight. It happened gradually, over years of learning to need less, ask for less or expect less. You stopped bringing certain things up because it felt easier...
Your energy is trying to tell you something
There's rarely a big warning or scream that says that you are not aligned with your energy or purpose. There's often no alarm, no obvious breakdown, instead it creeps in through things so small you almost dismiss them. Maybe you wake up tired even after a full night...
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