How do I know what I want to do with my life?

Here’s an interesting question from a student:

“I’m 26 and I don’t know what I want to do with my life. How can I know?”

This is a very common question these days, particularly with all the advices of “following your passion”.

That can be great if you actually know what your passion is (and even so, it can be quite a tricky path).

With so many people on social media so certain of their path in life, there are sure many lost people in this world who have no clue what they want to do with their life.

Let’s assume a worst case scenario. You have no real interests in life other than watching tv shows and/or playing video games and/or getting high. No favourite books (or no reading at all), no creation of anything or interesting hobbies.

Maybe you have a work that you only do to get some money OR you are going to school mostly because you have to.

In this hypothetical worst-case scenario, you are only spending time in mind numbing activities.

On this situation you urgently need to stop mind numbing yourself and take responsibility for your own mind and behavior.

We talk about this at length on the 10 Steps to Inner Power.

In general, it’s necessary is to start experimenting activities to find our your real interests. You’re not going to know what you want to do until you try it.

If you don’t try surfing, you don’t know that you will enjoy it.

You don’t know if clay sculpting is good for you unless you try it.

And having reading material about different topics would also be of interest. If you had the slight interest in some topics, order some material on them. Start studying them.

In other words, you want to immerse yourself in different types of activities and run away – or heavily reduce – the mind numbing behaviors.

A completely different situation is having too many interests.

You may have 1000 different hobbies or reading interests and end up being completely dispersed among so many of them that you don’t do anything useful.

This is also a very common situation particularly with the monstrous growth of information that happens every second.

It’s just hard to decide on one thing.

One of the possible solutions for this situation is to do small 3 month projects.

This will allow you to dive deep into one field of study for those 3 months while having a concrete outcome at the end of it.

Then you may wish to do a similar project in the same field, or do another in a completely different field. But at the very least, you’ll have hands-on experience and something to show for at the end of it.

Above all, in whatever scenario you need to take the pressure of finding something to do until the rest of your life.

That’s quite a huge commitment and you are never going to decide on something if you are thinking you will do it for the rest of your life.

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