In your mind, sexuality works like money: when you have plenty of it, you don’t think that much about it. But when you are lacking it, you think it will be THE thing that changes everything and give you everlasting happiness.
It’s like this thing is the beginning and end of all things.
When you are lacking it, sexuality occupies a huge chunk of your mind.
When you have it (and you are satisfied with it), its importance is heavily reduced. It’s just something you do/have.
If you don’t have problems with getting food, you don’t think that much about it. You simply know that when lunch times comes, you have your lunch ready in the fridge or you can go to a restaurant to eat.
Or if you are thirsty you simply drink from the bottle next to you. It doesn’t occupy any space in your mind or creates any neediness.
The problem is when you are lacking something you want, then it occupies this huge chunk of your mind and it creates a neediness mindset or one of despair, which doesn’t contribute to you getting out of the slump.
In a different way, when you are satisfied with your sexual activity, the “neediness” disappears. And like the saying goes:
“The rich get richer”
Both money and sex work in a similar way in your mind.
They are both deeply ingrained desires of the mind (physiological need and self-sufficiency), so it’s not a surprise that their psychological mechanisms are similar – not 100% equal obviously, but very similar.
In both, when you give it too much importance, they end up owning you. Your actions, thoughts, behaviors become infused with this scarcity mindset.
And of course, it doesn’t contribute to getting out of it.
At some moment, you need to own it again. You need to regain control of your mind and energy.
And interestingly enough, in sexual energy, this doesn’t happen by increasing control and tightening up your grip.
Quite opposite, it happens by loosening it, by letting go.
The more you can accept the sexual energy inside of you, the more you accept its movements and learn to enjoy its flow, the less of a neediness mindset you will have.
The – unblocked – flow of sexual energy inside gives rise to a wonderful abundant feeling that you can share with the world.
You are no longer “needing” to release this sexual energy in any way possible. No, you have learned to accept it and live with it in a very pleasant and pleasurable way.
From neediness to abundance. That’s what we work in Sexual Energy Mastery – a complete and deep acceptance of your sexual energy, by removing its blocks and improving its flow.
Here’s an interesting question from a student:
“Can you be more energetically compatible with someone?”
Yes, you can.
It’s not any groundbreaking new insight that you get along with some people more than others. This can happen on any level, personal, professional and sexual.
I’m sure you’ve met someone who you hit it off right away, while others you tend to dislike almost straight away.
A magnetic individual will have this positive effect very often. While someone who is overall repulsive, will be disliked much often.
But, you’ll also have individual compatibility on different energetic levels.
Most likely you’ve had a girlfriend/boyfriend whom you were extremely sexually compatible, while with other you were much more compatible emotionally (but not that much in the sexual aspect).
Or maybe you’ve had someone who you love hanging out with as friends, but you had a horrible time when trying to work with him/her.
This happens because the energy of someone changes in these different scenarios. Most likely (or at least I hope!) you’re not the same person when you’re having sex with someone than you are when you are working.
The energy is different, the context is different, the emotions are different.
This requires an energetic compatibility as well.
As you unblock different situations and your internal energetic flow, you’ll see your magnetism flowing much better overall, and naturally you end up having a lot more “energetic matches”.
While when your energy is stuck, blocked and won’t flow overall, it will be hard to have so many “energetic matches”.
But you can also focus on one specific person who you want to be more compatible on some level – of course we all know that you’re thinking about sexually compatibility.
So probably your next question might be: “Can you fake it? Can you make yourself more compatible to that one person?”
Yes, you can.
First you need to make sure you’re not overall repulsive and that your (sexual) magnetism is strong. Nothing will come out of this without this overall great energy in you.
Then once you understand energy, you can give it different qualities. These different qualities will have different reactions in the persons that you interact with.
You can become compatible to someone simply by allowing yourself to project the energy that this person is more attracted to.
This is, of course, an advanced energetic technique. A great and powerful one that’s true, but advanced nonetheless.
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Here’s an interesting quote from William Walker Atkison:
“And then the effect upon the woman herself. You know the effect of holding certain lines of thoughts; of auto-suggestion; of the attractive power of thought, and you can readily see how this woman makes things worse for herself all the time. She goes around with her mind fixed upon the idea that everybody’s hand is against her, and she carries about with her an aura that attracts to her all the unpleasant things in the neighborhood.
She goes around looking for trouble, and, of course, she gets it. Did you ever notice a man or a woman looking for trouble, and how soon they found it?
The man looking for fight is generally accommodated. The woman looking for “slights” always gets them, whether the giver intends them or not.
This sort of mental attitude fairly draws out the worst in those with whom we come in contact. And the predominant thought draws to itself all the corresponding thought within its radius. One who
dwells upon the fancied fact that everybody is going around trying to injure him, treat him unkindly, sneer at him, “slight” him, and generally use him up, is pretty sure to find that he has attracted to him enough people who will humor his fancy, and give him what he expects.
Then we have the story of the two dogs. The one dog, dignified and self-respecting, whom no boy ever thinks of bothering. The other dog, who expects to be kicked by every passing boy, and who draws himself up, and places his tail between his legs, and actually suggests the kick to the passing boy. Of course he gets kicked.
It’s wrong for the boy to do it, I know, but the dog’s attitude is too much for the nature of the average boy. And “grown-ups” are built upon the same plan. These people who are going around in the mental attitude which invites unkind treatment, generally manage to find someone who will have his natural meanness drawn out to such a convenient lightning rod.
And, in fact, such people often generate harsh feelings in persons who scarcely ever manifest them. Like attracts like in the world of thought, and one draws upon him the things he fears, in many cases.”
This is one of the greatest realities in the world. Like attracts like. You attract what you are.
If you have certain type of events or certain qualities of people that simply keep popping up in your life, you know you are attracting them. It’s not “bad luck”. You may have some “bad luck” once or twice. But if it keeps happening, then you know it’s you attracting it to your reality.
Reflect upon this simple, yet very powerful principle.
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