Making peace with your sexual energy

In the last email, we talked about the civil war inside you, especially the one that arises with each sexual feeling. However, this conflict can happen with all kinds of impulses and desires.

So, the most important question is: how do you make peace? How do you end this civil war?

Remember, these desires come from a block or a contraction (however slight it may be) – there is always an impulse forcing you to act or behave in a certain way. Your body and energy need something.

These are your needy desires. Whenever you act based on a block or contraction, it’s an egotistical desire. It might be a protective mechanism or a habitual reaction, but it comes from a place of neediness.

Why do I make such a strong statement?

Because that’s the very nature of a contraction or block. It’s something you NEED to do, not something you are choosing to do from a place of abundance.

You know this happens when it feels expansive. The energy itself feels expansive, not contracting. So, you know it’s coming from a place of abundance and giving, as opposed to neediness.

That’s why it’s important to connect with your blocks and contractions, bringing the presence of awareness to them. This way, they start to soften their grip, allowing that area to expand.

It’s like bringing light into it.

These are the “peace talks” to end the civil war: connect with your blocks related to your sexual energy, bring awareness to them so they can start to expand, and you can finally have a whole, magnetic sexual projection.

That’s what we start to do in the course:
>>> Sexual Energy Mastery

The civil war inside of you

It’s clear that we often experience inner conflicts. We may want one thing, but another part of us desires something else entirely.

This is especially noticeable when it comes to sexual magnetism.

In fact, it’s common to have not just two but several different impulses attempting to get our attention when we feel sexual attraction. Each impulse fights for the spotlight and its own interests.

Think about what happens during a date or an interaction with someone you’re attracted to. You feel the attraction and naturally want something more to happen with this person. But then, another part of you wants to hide it. You might even have a different impulse that feels the need to block any sexual feelings as if you’re not allowed to experience them. Or perhaps there’s an impulse that can’t let the other person sense your sexual energy, so it suppresses your projection.

I could go on, but the main point is that different impulses want different things and have different goals. There’s a mini civil war inside you whenever something sexual arises.

However, you’ll only experience this as “anxiety” or something similar. It’s as if one word could encapsulate all of this.

The question remains: how can you project clean and wholesome sexual energy with this internal battle going on?

You can’t.

You’ll end up feeling confused, and the person in front of you will sense it—consciously or unconsciously. If they don’t feel a clean sexual energy from you, no attraction can develop.

While you experience this mini civil war as “anxiety,” the other person will perceive it as neutrality. You’re not projecting anything sexual, or if you are, it’s not good or pleasant.

So, what should you do? We need to make peace with these impulses. We need to understand and recognize our different desires and blocks, allowing the energy to flow until we have only clean sexual energy.

This is the goal of our course, Sexual Energy Mastery. Through each exercise, you will start to recognize the different impulses inside you, healing them, until you are left with an enjoyable, pleasurable, and whole sexual energy.

The development of mind culture

Here’s an interesting quote from Charles Haanel:

“Attention or concentration is probably; the most important essential in the development of mind culture. The possibilities of attention when properly directed are so startling that they would hardly appear credible to the uninitiated. The cultivation of attention is the distinguishing characteristic of every successful man or woman, and is the very highest personal accomplishment which can be acquired.

The power of attention can be more readily understood by comparing it with a magnifying glass in which the rays of sunlight are focused; they possess no particular strength as long as the glass is moved about and the rays directed from one place to another; but let the glass be held perfectly still and let the rays be focused on one spot for any length of time, the effect will become immediately apparent.

So with the power of thought; let power be dissipated by scattering the thought from one object to another, and no result is apparent; but focus this power through attention or concentration on any single purpose for any length of time and nothing becomes impossible.

A very simple remedy for a very complex situation, some will say. All right, try it, you who have had no experience in concentrating the thought on a definite purpose or object. Choose any single object and concentrate your attention on it for a definite purpose for even ten minutes; you cannot do it; the mind will wander a dozen times and it will be necessary to bring it back to the original purpose, and each time the effect will have been lost and at the end of the ten minutes nothing will have been gained, because you have not been able to hold your thought steadily to the purpose.

It is, however, through attention that you will finally be able to overcome obstacles of any kind that appear in your path onward and upward, and the only way to acquire this wonderful power is by practice — practice makes perfect, in this as in anything else.”

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