It’s not about what you say, it’s about…

On the last email we talked about being sexual and projecting sexuality to make someone feel this sexuality in their body.

This gives you a great key to all magnetic and charismatic work:

It’s not about what you say, it’s about what you make them feel.

You can have the most interesting tidbits of knowledge, the most interesting life in the world, yet, if when you interact with someone, they don’t feel anything, then you are not being magnetic.

Monotony is a killer of all magnetism.

Emotions are the key.

Everyone around you must be FEELING something (hopefully something good!) when talking to you. Those feelings and emotions are what create the impact.

We talk about energy, Will, magnetism, exercises and so forth, but these are only means to an end – at least regarding the impact you have on someone else.

Simply put: Make them feel good, and you will be magnetic.

This only happens if you are projecting these type of feelings, emotions and energy. If you, yourself are neutral – a wallflower – then, this is what people will feel when they interact with you.

Think about everyone else you interact with as a mirror. They will reflect what you are projecting. They will be feeling what you are projecting.

If you are projecting sexual energy and sexuality, this is what they are going to feel.

If you are projecting compassion, good feelings, this is what they are going to feel.

If you are projecting hate, this is what they are going to feel.

(I know this is a simplistic way of looking at it – there’s much more to be said about it, but it’s enough to understand this very important key)

Of course, your projection needs to be strong enough for that. If your projection is not strong, then they simply won’t be feeling anything – regardless of what you are feeling. That’s why I chose my words very carefully here: If you are PROJECTING.

This goes like this:

Your own internal feeling -> (strong) projection -> reaction from other people

In terms of sexual energy, you need to be feeling the sexual energy all over your body flowing freely, then project it strongly, then you’ll have a strong sexual reaction from others.

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Blocks on your projection

There’s a rule that you need to keep in mind when you want to attract someone to you, in a sexual way:

If you want to have sex, you need to be sexual

I’ve mentioned this before and it’s never enough to say it again and explain it better, simply because it’s the most important rule you can have in all attraction.

When you are sexual, you are projecting sexuality, and it’s inevitable that people around you feel sexual (when your projection is strong enough).

Who would have known that you would have to make someone feel sexual to have sex? *ironic remark*

For me it’s perfectly logical, but yet, it doesn’t seem very logical for most people. And although I also fully understood it, in the past, I wasn’t putting it into practice.

Yes, I knew that you would need to be sexual, yet, I was blocking out all my projections of sexuality. And this is also what happens with those students who find it hard to get attraction.

On many situations, it’s not even about moving the sexual energy inside. This internal work is something that you can do on your own, at home without any pressure. You can remove the sexual blocks that were preventing the energy from moving and it’s an important work that we do in Sexual Energy Mastery.

But then there’s also the external part. Which is when you are actually with people, outside. What’s happening then?

What happens when you are interacting with someone you are attracted to?

Are you playing it cool? Are you being as neutral as possible?

More often than not, that’s creating a large sexual block that simply doesn’t allow your sexual energy to come through.

You may want to attract someone, but you are blocking it at the same time – maybe it’s due to fear that someone feels your sexual energy, or maybe it’s because of the uncomfortable feeling you get when being sexual in an interaction.

Either way, if you can move, feel and enjoy your sexual energy in your whole body when you’re at home alone, during the practices, then this issue is related to a block in your own projection. You need to be able to project sexuality no matter what, regardless of the situation.

That’s what we handle and work on the training: Become a Sexual Man

You need to do the work

Here’s an interesting quote from William Walker Atkinson:

“Many of the men and women who have been seeking Prosperity by means of the powers of the mind, have done so by “holding the thought,” and then folding their hands and calmly waiting for some “lucky” event to happen, or in other words, for the long sought for prize to drop down into the laps, from out of the Nowhere. Now, I have heard of a number of cases in which things apparently came about in this way, although I have always felt that a little investigation would have shown some good and natural cause behind it all, but as a rule the law does not work in this way—it does not leave the old beaten road of cause and effect. It is no Aladdin’s lamp which has merely to be rubbed in order that glittering gems, and showers of gold, be poured out into the lap of the owner, as he lies back on his cushions, lazily rubbing the lamp with the tip of his little finger. The law expects from the man who would invoke its mighty aid, a little honest work on his part.

I think that the majority of those who have met with a greater share of Success by means of the wonderful power of Thought, have met with such Success not by having it fall from the skies, but by following out the ideas, impulses, yes, inspiration, if you will, that have come to them.

The man who understands the workings of the Law, acts upon the tender impulses imparted to him, without resistance. He does not ask to see the end of the journey, but he sees the step just ahead of him very plainly, and he hesitates not about taking it. He does not expect the Law to bring results and place them in his hand. All he asks and desires is that the way be pointed out to him, and he is willing and ready to do the rest himself. The true man or woman does not wish to be fed with a spoon. All they ask is that they may have a fair chance to reach the source of supply, and they can manage to handle the spoon themselves. If any man think that the Law is an incubator of parasites—of leeches—of vampires—he is greatly mistaken.

The lesson of the Law is to teach every man to stand upon his own feet—to lean not upon another—but at the same time to feel that he is guided by the great Law of which he himself is a part, which manifests within him as well as without him, and that, consequently, while placing his trust in the Law, he trusts in himself. Not paradoxical at all, when you have the key.

Now, you people who have been sitting with folded hands and “calmly waiting,” and complaining that your own has not come to you, listen: You are mistaken. Your own has come to you—that’s just the trouble. Your own is the thing you attract, and you have been attracting just what has come to you. Start in today, determined to fall in with the workings of the Law and pay attention to the “I do” side of things as well as the “I am,” and you will receive new light. Great things are just ahead of you, but you must reach out for them—they’re not going to drop into folded hands. This is the Law.”

This is a reminder particularly in all manifestation work, that it’s not about sitting around and doing wishful thinking that someone will drop a Ferrari on your driveway.

Work is necessary! Yes, follow the impulses and intuition, but you do need to work for it.

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