Controlling your mental state is the difference between successfully handling difficult situations or completely losing it, whether in a business, social or romantic setting.

We all come across difficult situations in our everyday life. That’s part of living in the real world.

I recall before my training how I used to freeze in many type of situations. As if I didn’t had the required protocol on my system to handle what was thrown my way.

And this happened mostly on social type of situations – although not exclusively.

I just didn’t know what to say or how to process that information. Needless to say that, a few hours later, after the situation had already went down the drain, somehow the correct response would pop into my head. Not very useful.

As you can imagine, I would waste a lot of perfectly good opportunities in all areas of my life because of this freezing up.

Sometimes you really need to step up at the right moment to seize the opportunity in front of you. We don’t always have a second chance.

This used to be part of my daily living.

But this is mostly due to the self-awareness block we discussed last week (here and here). At that time I didn’t know about any of these concepts and hadn’t trained any type of inner power and mental state control.

Once I did, these type of situations became much rarer.

Why?

Because on most situations, getting control and saying the right thing is simply a matter of controlling your mental state.

Relaxing when you need to relax (as opposed to restricting) and/or changing your mental state to a more efficient one for the situation.

In other words, this is what people mean when they say: “pull yourself together”. But again, this type of “meta advice” comes without any type of concrete instructions and it’s hard for you to get the actual step-by-step instructions on what to do.

When you start to training these different inner power skills, you know exactly what to do to “pull yourself together”.

And once this is all automatic in you, those type of situations above will vanish – or at the very least – become rarer.

The same thing about doing what needs to be done and avoid procrastination.

It’s about pulling yourself together, get control over your mental state and do what you want done.

You won’t be able to do it with a passive mental state. If you are in front of your TV slouching on the couch, it’s really hard to get up and go to work with that type of passive mental state.

You need to change your mental state, get your head in the right state, then do what needs to be done.

This is one of the aspects we train in the 10 Steps to Inner Power.